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Co-Parenting Coaching
Are You Struggling To Effectively Co-Parent With Your Ex?

Are you in the process of a separation or divorce and in need of individualized guidance as you navigate the new territory of co-parenting? Do you need help coming together with your ex to make decisions—both big and small—regarding the care of your children? 

If your divorce or separation is recent (or even if it's not), you and your former partner may have trouble communicating effectively or finding common ground. You may find that lingering feelings of distrust or resentment affect your ability to problem-solve together. 

You may be in a pattern of arguing or criticizing one another. It’s possible that a lack of mutual respect has caused you to immediately discount and denounce each other’s opinions. Or maybe one (or both) of you feel perpetually gaslit and powerless in making decisions when it comes to your kids. 

Moreover, your kids have unique relationships with each of you, further complicating family dynamics. You and your former spouse may have differing parenting styles, routines, or rules for your children. You may both feel as though your parenting practices are better than your co-parent's and you may struggle to compromise. Perhaps you worry that "backing down" will hurt your children long-term or undermine your ability to assert your opinion at a later time.

The Legal Process Makes Co-Parenting Even Harder

Oftentimes, interactions with your ex can become tense and fraught with threats of legal action. Despite the fact that you have the expertise of lawyers and have likely had to mediate over matters of the children before, you probably can’t help but worry that every single interaction with your ex is doomed. 

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As a result, the two of you may dread interacting or even avoid one another because you’re sure that nothing will ever be resolved. You know that it’s in the best interest of your children to come to a consensus, but your feelings of trepidation keep getting in the way. 
 

No matter how hopeless you may feel, though, it’s important to remember that customized communication and problem-solving tactics are out there. Working with a coach, you and your ex-partner can learn to productively co-parent together—even if you're never destined to become friends.

Conflict and Communication Issues are Common After Separation and Divorce

 
Navigating life after divorce or a separation is difficult and often very painful. There are elements of grief due to the loss of the marriage that result in sadness and anger. Moreover, when there are children involved, parents can worry that their connection with their child may be jeopardized by negative comments by the other parent and limited visitation time
 
Although they may be well-intentioned, attorneys can magnify distrust and fear toward the other parent, making it even less likely that you and your ex will learn to collaborate. Your co-parenting relationship will outlast any court proceedings (and the financial fallout!), so it's in everyone's best interest to learn to work together.
 
Now that you're no longer co-parenting from the same home, your roles and responsibilities as a parent will change. It may be hard for the parent who has always served as the primary caretaker to feel that their ex can rise to the challenge as a single parent. Conversely, the parent who was a secondary caretaker may be feeling micromanaged and criticized by their co-parent as they try to develop new routines.

 

We Don’t Have Many Models to Demonstrate Effective Co-Parenting

No one ever plans to get divorced. As we're trying to create a new "normal" with our co-parent, we all tend to struggle with knowing how to establish and enforce healthy boundaries. When attorneys are added to the mix, it can cause us to lose confidence in our ability to assert ourselves and our needs.
 
We don’t have very many role models to show us how to healthily communicate after a divorce or separation. And many of us lack the individualized support we need when grieving the loss of a relationship and learning how to co-parent effectively. 

Even if it feels like trust and communication are absent from your relationship with your ex, healing is possible. Co-parenting coaching will give you the skills you need to establish boundaries and come to an agreement about the future of your family. 
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Coaching Gives You A Chance To Create A Lasting Co-Parenting Plan​

When negotiating the terms of your custody and divorce, you and your ex are likely working with lawyers who understand and are willing to fight for your needs respectively as individuals. Yet, a co-parenting coach works with both of you to have a more functional relationship and establish meaningful resolutions. I offer a space for you and your co-parent to engage in productive conflict and problem-solving together while maintaining healthy boundaries.

Given my background in counseling, child development, evidence-based practices, and as a divorced woman with children, my approach to coaching is tailored and solution-focused so you can form a healthy and effective co-parenting relationship with your ex. Working with me, you and your former partner can expect validation and compassion as you gain the skills needed to support parenting decisions and the needs of your children. 

How Does Co-Parenting Coaching Differ From Marriage/Discernment Counseling?

Coaching begins with a consultation call that will give you a chance to establish a sense of trust and ensure that my services will suit your needs. You will then receive intake paperwork that allows you to provide a more detailed background and helps you determine which of my co-parenting coaching packages would be most beneficial to you. 

From there, we will use coaching sessions to focus on solutions and the now of your relationship with your co-parent. Unlike counseling, we won’t linger over past hurts. Rather, we’ll look beyond the blame game to find consensus, make decisions that benefit your children, and develop new routines that keep conflict low and make communication easier and more productive.  

In the process, you will understand how certain emotions and belief systems are getting in the way of healthy communication with your co-parent. 

You’ll also get a chance to come together to learn how to assess what is developmentally appropriate for your kids when it comes to rules, routines, and consequences, as well as how to develop a decision-making process that will mitigate conflict. When appropriate, I may facilitate decision-making by giving you information about best practices in parenting so you can break free of gridlock and move forward in a child-focused way. 

You both have a right to develop new relationships with your children that reflect your personality and create a home culture that is compatible with your post-divorce family dynamics. Working together with me, you can see that conflict with one another does not have to take up as much time and emotional energy. The relationship between the two of you can improve dramatically—and it all begins with a commitment to co-parenting coaching. 

Maybe You’re Curious About Working With A Co-Parenting Coach, But You Still Have Questions…

I don’t think I can get my ex to agree to coaching for co-parenting. 

I work with a lot of individuals whose ex won’t agree to co-parenting coaching. Even if it’s just you coming to sessions, you can still learn to enhance your parenting strategies, communication skills, and emotional responses. With these tools, you can increase self-confidence and a sense of control when interacting with your ex. 

I don’t know how a co-parenting coach can help me - I am not the one who needs to change. 
 
If you’re stressed enough to reach out for help when it comes to co-parenting with your ex, something needs to change. While you may believe that your ex is predominantly at fault for your co-parenting issues, working with a coach offers each of you ideas for understanding how to adjust your emotional responses, manage stress, and communicate your parenting needs effectively. 
 
Your children need at least one healthy parent to thrive; make sure it's you.

I am concerned about the cost of co-parenting coaching.  

Though you’re probably already footing the bill for costly lawyers, it’s important to remember that they can take hours to arrive at a resolution and that, oftentimes, legal proceedings tend to create more tension and distrust in the relationship. 

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My co-parenting coaching services are individually tailored and meant to help you find relief as quickly as possible so that both of you can move on with your lives. I offer coaching through a secure telehealth platform that eliminates the stress of commuting and taking time off of work.  By committing to coaching, you and your co-parent can have peace knowing that you’ve done everything possible to foster a productive relationship with your ex so that you and your children can experience maximized mental health and minimal stress and conflict. 

You Can Learn To Look Beyond The Conflict And Toward Resolution


If you and your ex are struggling to communicate effectively regarding the needs of your children, co-parenting coaching can help you learn how to reduce counterproductive behaviors and establish common ground. To schedule a free, 30-minute consultation to find about more about my coaching services, please visit my scheduling link. 

SILVER COACHING PACKAGE

THREE (90 minute) parent coaching sessions to support you in navigating the emotions surrounding this transition as well as help you make healthy, practical decisions to benefit the children both short- and long-term.

 

You will work 1:1 with Dr. Tara Egan via Zoom.

$999

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GOLD COACHING PACKAGE

FIVE (90 minute) parent coaching sessions to support you in navigating the emotions surrounding this transition as well as help you make healthy, practical decisions to benefit the children both short- and long-term.

 

You will work 1:1 with Dr. Tara Egan via Zoom.

$1499

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